To be a martyr in the fight against domestic is certainly not something Crystal Brame intended.
As she was laid to rest on the day before Mother's day, that is exactly what she is becoming.
"The unspeakable way that Crystal was taken from us has left a hole with nothing in it's place but pain and frustration. It's a living nightmare we can't wake from," says Brad Chatfield.
Hundreds attended Crystal Brame's funeral Saturday, sharing in that nightmare.
But the two who had lost the most sat quietly in the front row; Crystal's 8-year-old daughter Haley, and 5-year-old son David Jr.
At times the pastor spoke directly to them.
"She loved being their mom," said Pastor Mark Toone from Chapel Hill Presbyterian Church. "She was a great mom, wasn't she? Yes, she was the best."
Haley Brame offered her own tribute in an essay read by the Pierce County Sheriff's Department Chaplain. "She was the best mom in the whole world, she never treated me or little David mean. She always treated me and little David nice. Her priority was me and little David. I love my mom so much and she loved me, " Haley wrote.
A video tribute showed Crystal Brame the ballet dancer, the woman fluent in French and American Sign Language, the woman who volunteered at her children's schools and always gave of herself.
In her death several wondered if Crystal could give of herself again.
"If this casket is not a wake up call about how quickly violence can spin out of control then you cannot be awakened. To the angry violent person, this moment cries out 'get some help now before it is too late.' "
In the nightmare of these past 2 weeks this is what her family clings to now - that Crystal will live on through her children and through the rest of us fighting domestic violence together.
"We can spread the word far and wide about the anguish Crystal suffered. We can convey the message to those who are still suffering in silence that they are not alone. And we can help prevent this tragedy from ever happening again. That would be Crystal's greatest legacy," says Chatfield.
Just an hour after her funeral ended, several hundred domestic violence advocates and victims gathered in Tacoma's Wright Park in Crystal's honor.
They want to encourage everyone to fight domestic violence in Crystal's name. They ask people don't ignore it, get involved because you truly could save someone's life.