First dad lost job, then family lost son

First dad lost job, then family lost son

GRAHAM, Wash. -- Times have been very tough lately for Jesse Hizey and his family.

Hizey had just lost his job when he lost his 6-year-old son, Sebastian, to an unusual accident at a monster truck rally at the Tacoma Dome.

Sebastian died after being struck in the head by a Frisbee-sized chunk of metal that tore off a monster truck during the Monster Jam show last Friday night.

"You go out for a night of fun, and you lose your son," Jesse said in a whisper, his face twisted in grief.

To help Sebastian's family members cope, many poured out their hearts and money at a fundraiser for the family held at a local Applebee's Restaurant on Tuesday.

Fifteen percent of the proceeds from the day's sales were to go directly to the family. But some who attended the event simply wanted to help. One person made a $150 donation, took no food in return and only listened as family members recalled memories of their beloved boy.

Marissa Dwyer smiled when she talked about her little brother. She's only 10 years old but she doesn't think she'll ever lose her memories of Sebastian.

"Him and his brother would dance. It was like little ballroom dancing and they would dance together. It was funny, a lot," she said.

But even as she remembered the funny times, she could not get past the overwhelming grief.

"Yeah, I've been OK. I miss him a lot," she said, biting her lip.

But there is one memory perhaps she'd rather forget. Sebastian fell into her arms right after he was hit at the monster truck rally.

"I've been writing about him," Dwyer said, "about his personality."

This, she said, helps him deal with her sadness.

For others, helping Sebastian's family seemed to help them process their grief. Dozens attended the event, knowing part of the amount they spend will help cover Sebastian's funeral costs. Their kind gestures and support have already begun fueling the family.

"I'm happy about it. I'm excited that they want to make these donations. We need it, a lot," Dwyer said.

"Yeah, I've actually got a lot of messages from friends and schoolmates telling me that they're there and it helps. It keeps me going," said Zach Dwyer, Sebastian's brother.

A memorial for the boy will be held at Frontier Junior High School this Saturday at 2 p.m.