Police seek public's help in finding missing girl
BURIEN, Wash. - King County Sheriff's officials are asking for the public's help in finding a missing 14-year-old girl who reportedly ran away from a drug and alcohol recovery center Friday.
Destiny Kindred was last seen getting into a car with three Hispanic men who promised to buy her alcohol outside the Jack in the Box on Ambaum Boulevard Southwest in Burien, according to Sergeant Cindi West, with the King County Sheriff's Office.
West said the teen has been missing since Friday when she and another man ran away from the recovery center. However, the man returned to the center on Saturday.
Kindred is described as 5' tall, 100 pounds, with blue eyes and brown hair. She was last seen wearing a black zip up jacket with dark jeans and black converse shoes.
You put this girls face all over the news and internet what do you expect to get for comments..Her parents screwed up somewhere along the lines..Working professionals?? Yeah, ok   ...@hit happens, deal with it and move on...
UNDER 18, SHE SHOULD BE SUPERVISED!
i do hope she is found safe however. no child should be alone on the streets
Thats so sad. I pray this little girl is found safe and able to get the help she needs.
Is this story over?
@BuddyHolly Probably not!
Alcoholism is an equal opportunity destroyer and it cares not about age, wealth. Roughly 1 out of 10 people will become alcoholic. Predisposition increase your odds tremendously. If you are female and predispositioned you have a greater chance of becoming an alcoholic at a younger age.
Drugs are bad uhmkay if you take addictive drugs you will likely become addicted.
The "man" that she left with could not be older than 18 yrs old as they do not treat anyone over 18 yrs old at this facility. Way to make it sound even creepier KOMO.
As for the three males she got in a car with. I hope she knew them because that is terrifying.e man
Destiny has been found safe. I know this girl and her family. You all know nothing. Stop speculating, and making the family feel worse than they already do. These parents are both working professionals who love their children. They are good parents raising kids in a very difficult time.Â
@KGF Thank You for letting us know she has been found and is now safe. Let her parents know there are people out there who were thinking about their little girl and hoping everything would be ok. Raising kids is not an easy job, especailly when kids go to school with other kids who are not supervised and whose parents don't care. I'm glad this young lady has a loving supportive family.Â
thank goodness!!..nobody walks in your shoes but you..no one has the right to judge it.
@KGF GLAD TO HEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Instead of speculating about the child, people should be after the three who took her to buy alcohol. Three people taking off with a 14YO? Whether she knew them or not, it is not excusable, (for the three).
@KGFÂ I'm happy to hear she has been found, please let the parents know that there are good wishes sent their way.Â
Good news and I am glad the parents are smart enough to intervene and get their daughter the help she needs.
Kinda looks the part also!
@Paul Sick POS! She is a child!
Lindsay Lohan wannabe!
@Paul POS! There is a BIG difference between a 14YO with an addiction and Lindsay Lohan who happens to be an adult!
This is bad news for this girl. I hope she makes it home safe and soon.Â
Sounds like an out of control kid right there, if she's a junkie at 14. I won't judge the parents since I don't know them, but if this girl doesn't want help, why should I care?
@dgruntled It's called Humanity. A dissapearing trait in today's society.
No lock down drug/alcohol facilities in Washington state for juvies unless you get a court ordered state appointment in one of only 21 beds available.
Worse, at age 13 under RCW, without a court order (near impossible to get) a child can sign themselves out. The laws in this state desperately need to change.
For those condemning the parents, they would have had to basically pleaded with the daughter to say yes - unless they navigated DSHS, CPS and FRS, go through a YAR petition first, followed by multiple contempts filing to get a CHINS motion, and then MAYBE convince a commissioner to make a finding. Been there, done that.
I hope she turns up OK
Our neighbors are going through the same thing with their 17 year old. We've known this boy for years. They are trying so very hard. They have 2 other kids - one is off to WWU & successful, the other is a bookish rule-follower. They have gotten to the YAR point a time or two and he's been to inpatient rehab. He is now back to his not coming home for days on end. She'll call/txt to ask if we've seen him. Overall good kid, just has the addiction gene.Â
Self destruction occurs even in the best of families. Whatever this child is running from, it sounds like her parents, by putting her in a rehab center, were trying to save her life. I pray for her safe return and if ANY of those alleged "hispanic men" who took her from the Jack in the Box, have any ounce of conscience, they will help her find her way back home, safely and unharmed.Â
@takncarabizniz If they had an ounce of conscience, they wouldn't have "disappeared" with her to begin with!
@takncarabizniz Â
Under RCW, at 14 years old, it is near impossible for a parent to "put" a child in rehab. The child has to want to go - or the parents have to navigate a very complicated system of multiple court filings and hearings in a system that stacks the decks firmly against the parents.
At 13 years old a child has the same rights as an adult on the issue of drug/alcohol treatment. Without a court order - they have to WANT to go and they can walk out at any time. If the child does not want to go, the parents only option is to file a YAR petition. But first, they have to go to DSHS, CPS, and FRS for an "investigation" if the YAR filing is the right thing. The child has a full voice at the table with the adults in the process. There is no adults making an independent decision for the child. The worst part of all is the child gets a very quick education on how much control they have. Toss in a co-dependent parent (or two) and it is near lights out.
After the YAR hearing the child needs to comply. If they don't, you go back to FRS, and back to court for a contempt hearing. You need to have several contempt hearings plus the bar needs to higher for a CHINS filing. All the while CPS/FRS is involved (in-home "counseling" for the family is a popular tool). If you can convince a commissioner to accept the CHINS petition then you can finally get a forced appointment. That assumes you have the money and a bed is available (there are only 21 lock down juvenile beds in the state for drug/alcohol/mental health).
During the CHINS and YAR process the child gets a court appointed attorney, that advises them of all their rights (and this can happen at THIRTEEN YEARS OLD!) and will fight against the parents, fully representing their "client," if that is what the "client" wants to do. Mom and dad? No such luck. If they want a lawyer - they have to hire one out of their own pocket. Oh and pay for the rehab if they don't have insurance (think $10,000 a month) and they are not on a state appointment. Wait, it gets better, if a CHINS filing includes placement outside of the home in a half-way house or foster situation, then the parents also have to pay child support to the state.
The deck is so incredibly stacked against parents in this state who has a problem teenager. Having gone through this with one child, my advice to anyone with an out of control kid in the state of Washington?
Move. Leave the state and go almost anywhere else where the law affords more parental rights and protections.
A healthy 13 year old can barely remember to put away their dishes and make their bed in the morning, let alone make life and death medical decisions on their own that could have a major impact on the rest of their adult life.
If someone wants to get pedantic, YES, you can get a mandatory 72-hour hold by a mental health professional if the child is deemed to be a threat to themselves or others - but that isn't an easy hill to climb. If after 72 hours they want to hold for 14 days, it goes back to court and DSHS/CPS/FRS gets involved. It is near impossible to get an in-patient, lockdown placement of a child over 12 years old in the state of Washington.
I need to say something to you people who are assuming the girl has trashy parents: It doesn't always work that way, and I'm living proof. I was raised by a single mom who was a deservedly well-respected member of the community. She had her faults, but she never touched alcohol or drugs, nor did she ever abuse me in any way. I started smoking cigarettes at 12, and by 14 I was doing any drug I could get my hands on. My mom tried everything she could to help me, but I was unreachable. I haven't done an illegal drug in 20 years now, and I have a happy, successful life by just about any way you could measure it. So a) don't automatically blame the parents for a wayward kid, and b) don't assume that the child is doomed.
@SeattleJack That is SO true. I've tried to state that on other forums and been shot down as "one off" examples. But, that is not the case at all. I can go through all my classmates from junior high and high school and list myriad examples.
And, thank you for sharing.
@SeattleJack I hope your mom learned about the better days too. Not always the case.
@SeattleJack I was a bit of a hellion myself, fortunately I lived through my stupidity to become quite a successful person. My parents were like Mr. and Mrs Cleaver... no fault on my parents side, I was just afflicted with a severe case of teenage stupidity.
@Susabelle @SeattleJack Agreed!!!! (Another stupid teen myself "in the day").
@Susabelle @SeattleJack I was to afraid to get into drugs, partying, or any of the other stuff so many teens did, being the youngest of 6 kids and seeing the older kids do stupid crap and get into trouble was bad enough but my cousin who was out of countrol was 5 years older than me and she and I were close and she would tell me all the crap that happened to her while she was out partying- I'm so thankful I had all the older kids in my family looking out for me.Â
@Susabelle @SeattleJack Ditto
@SeattleJack I have a cousin who has/had great parents, loving, non abusive, supporting, encouraging etc- yet my cousin was a wreck, drugs, running away preg at 15 etc. 20 years later she has straightened out and is a wonderful mother, and a great person.Â
14? so sad, what kind of life could turn a 14 year old into someone who needs rehab. Going to hug my 13 year old right now!!!
I hope they find her soon and continue to get her the help she needs.
Drug/alcohol rehab at 14? Helluva a life so far. Â Are parents just unable or unwilling to talk to their kids about drugs and alcohol? Â Hope they find her. Hope that they're also looking closely at the man she ran away with the day before. Â If she got into a car at Jack in the box with strange men, did he get a license plate? Â The story is unclear on whether he was the one that saw her leave with them. Â Chances are, she's just "partying" with the guys she met (or people she already knew and arranged to meet there.) Â
That "man" she left the facility with was at most 18 yrs of age... and they obviously talked to him or the Police would not have the information thay released to the press.
@DTÂ Where do you come up with some of this crap? Do you honestly think the police didn't talk to the young man she left the facility with? How do you think they know what happened? He told them.
@DT You really need to get out more. Talk to some parents that have kids like this. If the kid is in rehab, the parents know about the drug problem and are trying everything they can to help the kid. Rehab (particularly the one near that JITB doesn't 'just happen'. It takes a lot of work on the part of the parents in at least two directions to get the kid in there. 1) It's not cheap and even with insurance possibly covering, insurance won't cover all the expenses involved. 2) Getting the kid to BE there takes serious work with the kid and or with the courts.
I hope this young lady is found safe soon. Once my kids are grown and out of my house I hope to work with kids like this young lady.Â
I tried doing it in college at a half-way house. I was too close to them in age at the time I think. I found that most of the "damage" was already done. Which is NOT to say they can't be helped, it is just extremely difficult. Especially since a great portion of them do not want, or think they need your help. It can be grueling, but for that same reason, so rewarding.Â
I still remember the stories: A boy who was starting fires/arson. A run away from California with demonic delusions and self harm. A 14 year old girl who'd been in the foster system her entire life; had been adopted for a '1 year trial' into a home with another teenage daughter. She had loved it. They did not choose to keep her at the 1 year mark and "returned" her to sender. She was just waiting to age out of the system. Oh, and listening in on the crisis line. Few! Heartbreaking to remember still.
   ps just saying if you really want to know where this kid is. shell come home when its better then where she is now.
@maggie112 See? This is what I mean.
i bet if she could get a job and stay in school... since employers only hire 3 to 4 hours a week anyway due to unaffordable health insurance , and a nowa day thing....might as well hire these young teens --- thats capable of school and work.. start hiring them cuz they are smarter then we be leave!and maybe help people stay functional. i know i liked it! that pay check just grabs you by the hello!:] sorry to who ever that would think to steal -- juk --take chuck ie cheese tickets from a kid thinking,,, know whats bets thoughts,,.. oh please.
@maggie112 I've thought this before. You're delusional, and appear to have been affected by drugs.
@maggie112Â Is this a new form of code or a new language? I've tried to read this a couple times and now my head just hurts...what the heck are you saying?
@maggie112Â ...The hell?
@Hadrian @maggie112 Come on! It's fun to interpret. She actually has some 'interesting' things to say. Kind of like reading doctor's writing. Or working a puzzle...
I can get all the way down to: "sorry to who ever that would think to steal -- juk...."
@maggie112 Crack pipe, down, now.
Very scary. To think of what might be happening to her right now. I hope she is found. It is very hard to help kids who do everything in their power to self-destruct.