Baptist leaders urge Miss. church to reject racism

CRYSTAL SPRINGS, Miss. (AP) — Townspeople prayed for racial reconciliation Monday, but the black man whose wedding was rejected by a predominantly white Southern Baptist church in this small Mississippi town said he wasn't ready to let racism be swept under the rug.
"Prayer works, but only if you want it to work, only if you want it to work in your heart" said Charles Wilson, the groom. "There are some that won't change and I accept that. But I won't stop talking about it. We're still hurt."
As 150 residents sweltered in a park beside a railroad track, their song of praise was drowned out by a southbound Canadian National freight train. The scene was today's South writ small, a place where a lot of things have changed but where the pain of the old hurts can still flare anew.
Wilson and his bride Te'Andrea were to be married at the First Baptist Church of Crystal Springs on July 21. But after their rehearsal two nights before, the church's pastor sought to move the service, saying some congregants didn't want two black people to get married in the orange-brick sanctuary.
The Rev. Stan Weatherford married the Wilsons as scheduled in another sanctuary, but Charles Wilson began speaking out, saying he felt betrayed by the congregation and Weatherford. The pastor is personal friends with Te'Andrea's family.
Weatherford says the relocation was a request meant to avoid conflict. The Wilsons say it was a demand, with Weatherford saying the congregation would fire him if he married the pair in his church.
Weatherford refused to confirm that and sidestepped questions about whether he had made a mistake.
"They say hindsight's 20/20," Weatherford said. "I'm going to continue to pray to the Lord for wisdom in my life."
He said the church will confront its problems internally.
The Wilsons said Greg Duke, a Sunday school teacher, was the only member of the church to reach out to them. Duke said he found out about the relocated wedding the day after it happened, although it took a few days for him to piece together the facts. He said most of the church's hundreds of members didn't know what happened until the story hit the news.
Monday, as townspeople set off on a prayer march after the rally, he spoke to the Wilsons, inviting them to return and give the church another chance.
"I think a few people dictated what happened," Duke said after speaking to Wilson and his crying wife. "I'd just like to say we were all hurt by this. Not like they were, but we were hurt."
Duke said he hoped the people who objected to the wedding would step forward and make amends. Alderman Ray Brown, one of three black men on the five-member town board, said he agreed that the church should issue an official apology.
"I think the First Baptist members, the progressive ones, aren't for this," said Brown, who doesn't attend the church. "I think there may be some ones that are stuck in the past."
Monday's rally was organized by Mayor Sally Garland, who is white, as reporters began streaming to this part-trim, part-scruffy town just south of Jackson's suburban fringe. It featured a racially balanced group of pastors. The majority of attendees were white, though the town is majority-black.
Southern Baptist leaders called Monday for the church to reject racism. Baptist churches are autonomous, so they want the congregation to chart its own course.
Jim Futral, executive director of the Mississippi Baptist Convention board, said the organization was praying for the church and is ready to help. William Perkins, a spokesman for the group, said the church has not contacted state officials.
"Mississippi Baptists both reject racial discrimination and at the same time respect the autonomy of our local churches to deal with difficulties and disagreements under the lordship of Jesus," Futral said in a statement.
After being slow to reach out across racial lines, Southern Baptists have made increasing efforts in that direction in the past two decades. Nationwide, about 19 percent of 45,000 Southern Baptist churches are majority-minority, including 3,500 that are majority black.
Earlier this year, the convention elected its first black president, the Rev. Fred Luter Jr. of Franklin Avenue Baptist Church in New Orleans. At the same meeting, delegates voted to give churches the option of calling themselves Great Commission Baptist churches, for those who wish to break free of the baggage of the Southern Baptist name and reach more followers.
"We are all saddened when any sin, including the sin of racism, rears its head," said Southern Baptist Convention spokesman Sing Oldham. "Part of our gospel is that we are being redeemed. We are flawed, failed creatures and redemption is a process."
Oldham said "a sizeable number" of Baptist pastors are fired or forced to resign each year in conflicts with church members. Most seminaries teach that pastors should be fired only for moral failure or theological error, but Baptist officials say many ministers are fired for personal conflicts or other reasons.
"Unfortunately, most of the members of the church don't read those books," Oldham said.
"Prayer works, but only if you want it to work, only if you want it to work in your heart" said Charles Wilson, the groom. "There are some that won't change and I accept that. But I won't stop talking about it. We're still hurt."
As 150 residents sweltered in a park beside a railroad track, their song of praise was drowned out by a southbound Canadian National freight train. The scene was today's South writ small, a place where a lot of things have changed but where the pain of the old hurts can still flare anew.
Wilson and his bride Te'Andrea were to be married at the First Baptist Church of Crystal Springs on July 21. But after their rehearsal two nights before, the church's pastor sought to move the service, saying some congregants didn't want two black people to get married in the orange-brick sanctuary.
The Rev. Stan Weatherford married the Wilsons as scheduled in another sanctuary, but Charles Wilson began speaking out, saying he felt betrayed by the congregation and Weatherford. The pastor is personal friends with Te'Andrea's family.
Weatherford says the relocation was a request meant to avoid conflict. The Wilsons say it was a demand, with Weatherford saying the congregation would fire him if he married the pair in his church.
Weatherford refused to confirm that and sidestepped questions about whether he had made a mistake.
"They say hindsight's 20/20," Weatherford said. "I'm going to continue to pray to the Lord for wisdom in my life."
He said the church will confront its problems internally.
The Wilsons said Greg Duke, a Sunday school teacher, was the only member of the church to reach out to them. Duke said he found out about the relocated wedding the day after it happened, although it took a few days for him to piece together the facts. He said most of the church's hundreds of members didn't know what happened until the story hit the news.
Monday, as townspeople set off on a prayer march after the rally, he spoke to the Wilsons, inviting them to return and give the church another chance.
"I think a few people dictated what happened," Duke said after speaking to Wilson and his crying wife. "I'd just like to say we were all hurt by this. Not like they were, but we were hurt."
Duke said he hoped the people who objected to the wedding would step forward and make amends. Alderman Ray Brown, one of three black men on the five-member town board, said he agreed that the church should issue an official apology.
"I think the First Baptist members, the progressive ones, aren't for this," said Brown, who doesn't attend the church. "I think there may be some ones that are stuck in the past."
Monday's rally was organized by Mayor Sally Garland, who is white, as reporters began streaming to this part-trim, part-scruffy town just south of Jackson's suburban fringe. It featured a racially balanced group of pastors. The majority of attendees were white, though the town is majority-black.
Southern Baptist leaders called Monday for the church to reject racism. Baptist churches are autonomous, so they want the congregation to chart its own course.
Jim Futral, executive director of the Mississippi Baptist Convention board, said the organization was praying for the church and is ready to help. William Perkins, a spokesman for the group, said the church has not contacted state officials.
"Mississippi Baptists both reject racial discrimination and at the same time respect the autonomy of our local churches to deal with difficulties and disagreements under the lordship of Jesus," Futral said in a statement.
After being slow to reach out across racial lines, Southern Baptists have made increasing efforts in that direction in the past two decades. Nationwide, about 19 percent of 45,000 Southern Baptist churches are majority-minority, including 3,500 that are majority black.
Earlier this year, the convention elected its first black president, the Rev. Fred Luter Jr. of Franklin Avenue Baptist Church in New Orleans. At the same meeting, delegates voted to give churches the option of calling themselves Great Commission Baptist churches, for those who wish to break free of the baggage of the Southern Baptist name and reach more followers.
"We are all saddened when any sin, including the sin of racism, rears its head," said Southern Baptist Convention spokesman Sing Oldham. "Part of our gospel is that we are being redeemed. We are flawed, failed creatures and redemption is a process."
Oldham said "a sizeable number" of Baptist pastors are fired or forced to resign each year in conflicts with church members. Most seminaries teach that pastors should be fired only for moral failure or theological error, but Baptist officials say many ministers are fired for personal conflicts or other reasons.
"Unfortunately, most of the members of the church don't read those books," Oldham said.
Racism is stoopid. I can't believe this crap still takes place. I hate raycism (sic).
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I think they make a lovely couple despite the decades separating them.
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Any of you who want to be some sort of smart-aleck comment about their disparate ages should be ashamed of yourselves. This is a serious story with serious consequences. Don't you even think of making light of this just to illustrate a point. Shame on you.
People can be cruel and yes so called Christian's in the church are and can be too over the top judgmental and cruel. God says by his Spirit that there is no more Greek, or Jew or man or woman that we are one in the Spirit when we receive and accept out Lord Jesus his Son into our hearts. In other words God is Salvation and Salvation is for all mankind. Where does the color become a part of the equation? Where does racism become a part of God's people? HOW DARE THEY REJECT A UNION OF MARRIAGE BASED ON THE COLOR OF ONE"S SKIN?
ANARCHY is a coming and it is already and streets will be filled with horrible things because the heart of man is deceitfully wicked!! Before man changes his heart first must be changed!!
This church is not a changed church, and the leader of that church is walking in iniquity.
Yes I can judge this according to the word of God!! We must test the Spirit by the Spirit...That's his word!! Live by it or go scratch in a corner some where but stay out of the hurting business. If you have not LOVE it PROFITS you NOTHING!
I am saddened by this. Having grown up in this area of the country it's hard to break the race cycle and it's on both sides of the fence and it runs deep culturally (combine that with the fact many justified this by twisting Biblical scripture...KKK comes to mind). It's not right and it needs to be confronted daily individually and as organizations. Affirmative Action is not going to fix this - it's a heart issue!Â
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- in hind sight this pastor should have stood his ground and married them in the church (however this no doubt would have resulted in his possible termination, church split or both.
- This church was not too "religious" to accept them as members and take their support in money and time!! Maybe they should ask for a refund of all tithes and move membership to a non-racial church!! LOLÂ
From what I read in other stories about this incident, she had become a member within the last year or so. In most churches I have ever been in, your membership has to be voted on by the congregation. So, it appears that she was good enough to actually commit to being a member of this particular church, but not good enough to get married in it? If this truly is a Bible believing church, the pastor needs to walk them through the steps of correcting those members who behave improperly within the church body. It sounds like the pastor wants to handle it in-house--I hope he sits down with his Bible, reads the section on how this is supposed to handled and actually does it. There is no excuse for this kind of behavior within the church.
 @chickysgirl I was somewhat unimpressed by the pastor's efforts to "deal with this within the church", when he already folded by moving the ceremony under a threat to his job...
Wouldn't a good Christian stand up for the right of this couple to be married in the main chapel, even if it cost him his job?
 @OrcasThunder You are absolutely correct. And it kind of sounds like he wishes he had done that from the start. I like the fact that he isn't talking anymore about it, but says he wants to deal with it from within the church. As far as I am concerned, this is one of those things you take a stand against, regardless of whether it puts your job in jeopardy. But, there are admonishiments in the Bible to 'keep the peace" too, so his plan to pray for wisdom is probably the only response he can give at this time. But I do hope he follows through, for the sake of his own peace of mind, and his congregation.
 @chickysgirl Well said.
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 @Sid Vishess What remained of your credibility just got flushed down the toilet here.
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That got deleted? Wow! Not even close to a violation. I protest! Â Perhaps the Nanny should be aware that sarcasm is a tool to be wielded against stoopid concepts like raycism(sic).
 @OrcasThunder  I once appeared in "A Midsummer Night's Dream" with Alexis Denisof back in the early 80's.
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Robin Goodfellow you ain't.
He looks old enough to be her grandpa. Maybe that's why they were rejected...
What a sick, sorry representation of the baptist faith. Disgusting and absolutely shameful.
If i were that pastor, I would resign or beat a bunch of phoney religious actors into repentance. Just saying.