Church apologizes for barring black marriage

JACKSON, Miss. (AP) - A predominantly white Mississippi church has apologized for its refusal to allow a black couple to marry in its sanctuary, though the couple said Monday they knew nothing of the apology until a reporter called.
The First Baptist Church of Crystal Springs posted the apology on its website Sunday, saying it was seeking "forgiveness and reconciliation" with Charles Wilson and Te'Andrea Henderson Wilson, their families and friends and God.
"This wrong decision resulted in hurt and sadness for everyone. Both the pastor and those involved in the wedding location being changed have expressed their regrets and sorrow for their actions," reads part of the six-paragraph statement.
However, Charles Wilson said no one from the church had contacted him or his wife.
"I can't believe they think they've apologized," Wilson said. He said only one or two people from the church have contacted him in recent weeks, and they did so personally and not as representatives of the church.
"You put a thing in the media and say you've apologized?" Wilson asked. "That is an insult."
Church officials did not immediately respond to a phone call seeking further comment Monday.
The Wilsons had planned a marriage ceremony at the church July 21, but some members objected to the Rev. Stan Weatherford after the couple's rehearsal. The Wilsons have said that Weatherford, the pastor, told them he could be fired if the wedding was held in his church.
The couple's wedding was held in a predominantly black church, where Weatherford officiated.
Some church members have said that most of the hundreds of congregants didn't learn what had happened until well after the Wilsons' wedding.
Crystal Springs, a town of about 5,000 people about 20 miles south of Jackson, is more than 60 percent black. The Wilsons live in Jackson but started attending church there because Weatherford has been a personal friend of Te'Andrea Wilson's family. Some members of her family have continued to attend church at First Baptist, though the Wilsons have not.
Town officials held a racial unity rally July 30, with Weatherford, Mayor Sally Garland and others praying for racial reconciliation. The Wilsons attended, but Weatherford and the Wilsons did not speak. Weatherford told reporters there he was trying to avoid conflict by moving the wedding and denied that his job had been threatened.
Southern Baptist leaders had called for the church to reconsider, noting that the Baptist Faith and Message, a statement of what Southern Baptists believe, says that "Christians should oppose racism." State and national leaders of the denomination, though, noted that each church is autonomous, and said the church had to work out its own response.
After being slow to reach out across racial lines, Southern Baptists have made increasing efforts in that direction in the past two decades. Nationwide, about 19 percent of 45,000 Southern Baptist churches are majority-minority, including 3,500 that are majority black.
Earlier this year, the convention elected its first black president, the Rev. Fred Luter Jr. of Franklin Avenue Baptist Church in New Orleans. At the same meeting, delegates voted to give churches the option of calling themselves Great Commission Baptist churches, for those who wish to break free of the Southern Baptist name to seek more followers.
The First Baptist Church of Crystal Springs posted the apology on its website Sunday, saying it was seeking "forgiveness and reconciliation" with Charles Wilson and Te'Andrea Henderson Wilson, their families and friends and God.
"This wrong decision resulted in hurt and sadness for everyone. Both the pastor and those involved in the wedding location being changed have expressed their regrets and sorrow for their actions," reads part of the six-paragraph statement.
However, Charles Wilson said no one from the church had contacted him or his wife.
"I can't believe they think they've apologized," Wilson said. He said only one or two people from the church have contacted him in recent weeks, and they did so personally and not as representatives of the church.
"You put a thing in the media and say you've apologized?" Wilson asked. "That is an insult."
Church officials did not immediately respond to a phone call seeking further comment Monday.
The Wilsons had planned a marriage ceremony at the church July 21, but some members objected to the Rev. Stan Weatherford after the couple's rehearsal. The Wilsons have said that Weatherford, the pastor, told them he could be fired if the wedding was held in his church.
The couple's wedding was held in a predominantly black church, where Weatherford officiated.
Some church members have said that most of the hundreds of congregants didn't learn what had happened until well after the Wilsons' wedding.
Crystal Springs, a town of about 5,000 people about 20 miles south of Jackson, is more than 60 percent black. The Wilsons live in Jackson but started attending church there because Weatherford has been a personal friend of Te'Andrea Wilson's family. Some members of her family have continued to attend church at First Baptist, though the Wilsons have not.
Town officials held a racial unity rally July 30, with Weatherford, Mayor Sally Garland and others praying for racial reconciliation. The Wilsons attended, but Weatherford and the Wilsons did not speak. Weatherford told reporters there he was trying to avoid conflict by moving the wedding and denied that his job had been threatened.
Southern Baptist leaders had called for the church to reconsider, noting that the Baptist Faith and Message, a statement of what Southern Baptists believe, says that "Christians should oppose racism." State and national leaders of the denomination, though, noted that each church is autonomous, and said the church had to work out its own response.
After being slow to reach out across racial lines, Southern Baptists have made increasing efforts in that direction in the past two decades. Nationwide, about 19 percent of 45,000 Southern Baptist churches are majority-minority, including 3,500 that are majority black.
Earlier this year, the convention elected its first black president, the Rev. Fred Luter Jr. of Franklin Avenue Baptist Church in New Orleans. At the same meeting, delegates voted to give churches the option of calling themselves Great Commission Baptist churches, for those who wish to break free of the Southern Baptist name to seek more followers.
Hmmm... the church website is crashed. I was going to suggest they look at a few scriptures. 1 Corinthians 13:1-3, 1 John 4:20-21, Acts 10:34-35, and in particular  1 John 4:8.
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 @caphillkid After spending a few weeks there helping out with recovery from Hurricane Katrina, I have to agree with you. I've never seen such a backwater and was amazed that such places still existed in this country. Racism is institutionalized. We weren't sent to black neighborhoods or predominantly black towns to help out until all the white areas had been cleared. The excuse was that the blacks didn't attend emergency management meetings so they were on their own.
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Conversely, when we got to the black areas, we were warned by residents on more than one occasion, not to be there when the sun set.
It's so very sad that your post is true in 2012
Does an apology really count if it is not directly made to the person or people to which it is owed? Seems to me they only issued an apology to try to combat the negative press. This hardly seems like a genuine apology.
Stupid people do stupid things. BTW, where is Jackson, Sharpton? I expected to get a tweet from  Spike Lee with everyones address.
 @Saving Grace Of course you did, bigot. Sorry your confirmation bias came in a little low today.
 @WWRJD By definition, you're as much a bigot as anyone else that posts here.
 @WWRJD Look at your own posts. You obstinately and intolerantly are devoted to your own opinions. You also treat conservatives as a group with hatred and intolerance.
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Yes sir.... you're the poster child for the word "Bigot."
 @Middle Ground Nice try. A definition is now proof?
 @WWRJD http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/bigot
 @Middle Ground Citation needed.
Y'all are getting seriously off track here! I think everyone agrees that not allowing them to marry in this church because of their skin color is wrong. No need to bring Huckabee, liberal media, or the Mars rover into it, lol. Too funny...
Looks like they are getting it worked out but somewhere along the way the church seems to have some internal communication problems. It's highly unlikely the pastor and/or the elder-ship would feel an apology on their website would be sufficient. I'm sorry this happened but it also helped bring to light racism is still alive and well and to keep working on it. Cool heads and common sense will and are prevailing. The media as usual is stirring up the pot.
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If your religion or other beliefs teach hate, and you then believe it or act upon it, you are now a sociopath. Â How does that feel?
 @ETSubmariner Given your history of ardent hatred for conservatives, I guess you just labeled yourself as a sociopath. How does that feel?
 @Middle Ground  @ETSubmariner Citation needed.
 @Middle Ground  @ETSubmariner I don't know whether to pity you or point and laugh.
 @ETSubmariner Well, it kind of feels like a fact to me.Â
I wish the story would have reported what the pastor stated his reasons for denying the wedding to begin with. Reporters love to put a racial slant on things that aren't usually there. I suspect that here. I'm a conservative christian, and I've never seen people who are truly following Jesus be racist. Ever!
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 @Magic 8 Ball The pastor married them, but somewhere else. He was bullied by members of the congregation to not marry them. You could read the previous articles ya know, and not step in it.
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Can you please give me the links to the other articles so that I can find out what the reason for not marrying them is...from the pastor's own mouth?
So it's my fault for not reading all the articles before commenting on this one for not having enough information in it for me to automatically presume that a pastor is a racist bigot? Excuse me!
@Magic 8 Ball ! A real Christian would not be racist, but what kind of slant could have been put on this? They didn't marry a couple because they were black.
The story doesn't say that the pastor wouldn't marry them because they were black. It just makes it look that way. There are a lot of other reasons that a pastor may not marry a couple. Could be that they are not Christians. Could be that they have been divorced and the pastor takes a hard line stance on it. Why is everyone here so narrow minded and ready to think the worst of any christian?
 @Magic 8 Ball Interesting how the conservatives have the "Osama Bin Laden represents all muslims," but anyone who is christian and acts evil is usually both justified, and not reprenting christians anyway.
 @T H I S Citation needed as another uber-liberal would demand.
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Your premise is pure nonsense. I've never heard anyone of any political persuasion (other than self professed Al-Queda members) say that OBL represents all Muslims.
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Do you always fabricate facts to fit your twisted view of reality or is it something you perfected for the KOMO blogs?
I have to say, as a minority, in this current climate, I am more fearful of the conservative base than I am of the Liberal base, sad but true. i.e. M Bachman, I am pretty sure she wouldn't know who and what is the difference between a muslim, budhist, sikhs, hindu, etc. But yet, she wants to investigate all the people she believes are with the muslim brotherhood, how can someone like infiltrate the US govt.  And when many conservatives say that Obama is not a real Christian, a couple thoughts come to mind: 1) who are they to make that judement, 2) i didn't know that being a christian is a requirement for prez. There is hope in the conservative party, someone like J McCain, a good, decent, fair, and honorable person.
@T H I S conservatives think Osama represents all Muslims? That's funny because you are casting a single net over all conservatives with that comment, but complaining that all conservatives cast a single net over all Muslims, which is completely false to begin with. For representing a party that hates discrimination, you sure like to discriminate.
 @T H I S You know, no one is better at ducking responsibility than Mr. No True Scotsman. That guy is just never guilty.Â
Of course they did after the Lamestream Liberal Press tried to shame this innocent church away from excercising their constitutional right to freedom of religion.   It seems like the only people who want freedoms these days are the liberals who want their freedom to force their athiest agenda on churches in an effort to destroy christianity.Â
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It is no coincidence that we are destroying our supremacy as as a once great nation at the same time we are turning out backs on a christian church's right to excercise its freedoms and practice their religion how  ever they desire without a big liberal government or a big liberal press to force them to act against their will.
 @rushrules Racism should not enjoy the sanctuary of any institution including a church. As a conservative I have to say you're a right wing lunatic and a very scary person at that.
There is no excuse for a 'Christian' church of any kind denying someone the 'Christian' rite of marriage because of the color of their skin. You can call this church innocent, and just practicing their freedom of religion--but when you do that you are NOT talking about a true Christian church. I see no athiest agenda in this story, I see no liberal viewpoint--it is a news story about a group of people who wish to deny a right that all heterosexual people in this country have, based solely of the color of their skin. If the leaders of this church do not denounce that kind of behavior, it simply cannot be called a Christian church. And if I were the pastor and this church can't turn things around so it doesn't happen again, I would not, no, I actually could not remain there.Â
 @chickysgirl For once we are in complete agreement on something.
@rushrules Well we should probably get rid of the statue of liberty... you know the whole false idol thing, and keep in god we trust and one nation under god (under god added well after founding fathers)... list goes on and on. If freedom of religion is so important to you, when will you rally behind any of the items listed above? Or will it remain freedom of MY religion with you?
@rushrules uhh...how is denying a black couple to get married related to a church exercising its freedom and practicing religion?
Did Jesus talk about hating black people?
or did the idiots running the church make that up?
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They are MEMBERS of this church, and were not allowded to be married there. That is completely offensive. Too bad so many are so close minded when it comes to race.
 @rushrules Rush writes atheist songs that criticize religion and theism?
 @rushrules Dude, you do realize that you are defending open, ugly and deplorable racism by a bunch of backwoods Teabillys don't you? However, I agree these, backwoods Teabillys who who have a curious thing for Jesus are free to do as they will but you know what, maybe it would be okay for everyone to collectively say, "Hey, you guys really suck at this whole being human thing!" Just a thought for you on that. As well, with reference to your comment about "destroying our supremacy", did you happen to notice we dropped a rover on Mars last night?Â
 @kennewickman There's nothing racist about the tea party. Let's stop propagandizing for once, okay? Rushrules is a lunatic. We can both agree on that. He's not representative of conservatives or the tea party. He's a nut case.
 @Middle Ground Of course there isn't.
Keep telling yourself that. Eventually it might be true. Â
i would site M Bachman.
@kennewickman Yes, I read how our country who is broke took more of my tax dollars to pay for us to look at dirt on another planet.
I would call that stupid, not a sign of any kind of supremacy.Â
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 @rushrules  @kennewickman Don't worry, "It" would call you stupid right back, and it would be correct.
 @rushrules I am not sure what is more sick.Â
Your post, or @Truth Percolates liking your post. Â
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To be expected I guess, but still twisted.
@rushrules, did you really say "innocent" church? Do you really think that racism is part of Christianity? I'll answer it for you, it's not. The First Baptist Church of Crystal Springs was trying to destroy Christianity by going over and beyond the Bible to institute a non-Christian rule like that. I'm guessing you also support Westboro.
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Que Mike Huckabee! Â I fully expect him to announce a day of appreciation for this church for standing up for their beliefs and for first amendment rights. Â
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Waiting Mike........
stage a kiss in...
 @Saving Grace Nah, we should stage a burning Cheerio protest, like the anti-gay boycott fool--the one who had to buy the product to protest it--did today.  http://dangerousminds.net/comments/anti_gay_cheerios_burning_goes_horribly_wrong
 @TehHawt  @Saving Grace PRICELESS!!!Â
 @seattleways Quick, call Chick-Fil-A, they best order up more supplies. When it comes to fighting the Devil, nothing is more effective than a chicken sandwich.